I've been wanting to do this post for a while, and today seems like the right time. This is about skinny shaming, yes, but also about accepting EVERY body, and not shaming ANY body.
We all hear tons of flack about 'fat' bodies, but then, as backlash, we say that girls with curves are cuter, etc., but at the same time, they bash skinny girls. Which, I guess is the point because everyone feels that 'skinny is the ideal.' It's not, though! Even skinny girls get TONS of negative comments.
Every woman has a different ideal, and the same with every man. A ton of men will pass me up because I'm too skinny, I don't have enough curves, etc. I feel self-conscious for all the above reasons. On the other side of the spectrum, women will be passed up because of opposite reasons. I'd like to be heavier, and some women would like to be lighter. I don't think anyone has the right to comment on others' bodies. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!
I don't know why it would be acceptable to go up to someone and say, "Do you ever eat? You should try hamburgers once in a while!" (Yeah, this was said to me a few weeks ago. Even though this wasn't meant in a mean way... are you fucking serious?) OF COURSE I EAT. AND I FUCKING LOVE HAMBURGERS. It would NEVER be acceptable to go up to a heavy person and ask them if they ever stop eating and that maybe they should try eating salad once in a while, so why the fuck is it okay to ask the opposite of these questions in semi-joking, semi-critical way!? It's not.
However, I don't feel like the dialogue is ever "accept every body," it's always, "she looks like a boy- curves are better." No, nothing is "better." We all have incredible, amazing, powerful bodies. My skinny body is no better than another's heavy body. They are BODIES. What matters is what is on the inside. No one wants an ugly personality in a super fit, curvy body. (Okay, some might- but they are superficial and you wouldn't want to be with them anyway!)
Accept not only your own body, but everyone elses' as well.
Blog posts from 2014-2015 were transferred from my original blog on blogger, Oshiro Design, to my updated website, oshirodesigns.com