Where do I even begin? So I've only officially had 2 "roommates" and the others are technically suitemates or housemates/apartment mates. I decided to split this up into 2 posts since it ended up being SO LONG. The latter half is longer than the first half, but it wasn't logical to cut it up any other way.
Timeline: Summer 2011-Spring 2013
All names have been changed.
My first semester of college started in Summer 2011, and the roommate I was paired up with, Amber, was amazing! She was my best friend for a long time, and after about the first year, things weren't as great with us as they had been. A lot of things changed and there was so much that had happened. I got a boyfriend (my first serious boyfriend, and my most recent ex) and she also got a boyfriend. My relationship ended up lasting about a year, and hers, about a month. When they broke up, she turned to God. I think that was the biggest divider for us, because she had a new, completely different outlook on life and didn't want to do the things we'd done before (like drinking sometimes- neither of us were huge drinkers, going out to clubs once in a while, etc). Since her thought-process also changed, when we'd talk about things, like boyfriends, it wasn't as fun or relatable anymore, because I felt like I was being judged on a majority of my life choices. We grew apart.
Amber didn't even want to come over to my boyfriend's apartment to celebrate my 20th birthday with me. She never did anything to make up for it (like a card, take me to lunch, or anything else), which made me feel like I wasn't deserving. Her birthday was less than 2 months later, and even though I felt that she had totally disregarded my birthday, I was still a big part of her birthday. The tipping point was my 21st birthday... she pretty much completely ignored it. So after she did the same last year and I even attended hers, I was pretty much done. I still love and miss her, but I never got an apology and things are just so different now that I'm ready to let things be the way they are.
Amber and I were suitemates for Fall 2011 & Spring 2012 but I had a different roommate, Kelly. I don't keep in touch with Kelly as much anymore either, but mostly because we're both busy and live apart now. She was pretty messy, but it wasn't anything to write home about. I liked her as a roommate.
For my second year in college, Fall 2012 & Spring 2013, (around my 20th birthday) all four of us (Amber, Kelly, me and Amber's roommate, Desi) moved into another on-campus dorm together, and Amber and I were roommates again. This year got pretty rocky between us and the other two suitemates, but it was definitely bearable. Some of the issues were my fault, some were hers, and some was all of us. But I still had a good experience overall.
My third year in college, Summer 2013, Fall 2013 & Spring 2014, (around my 21st birthday) I moved off-campus to a student housing apartment with all new and random roommates. (Amber stayed on campus, Kelly moved off-campus to a different apartment, and Desi moved to a different apartment off campus than the rest of us)
Thanks for reading this far! The second half is way crazier than the first half, this is more for background. Are you rooming with anyone now? Were you, when you moved away for college? How was your experience?
Blog posts from 2014-2015 were transferred from my original blog on blogger, Oshiro Design, to my updated website, oshirodesigns.com