I stumbled upon Gretchen Rubin's site a few weeks ago where she has a ton of helpful resources mostly about happiness, but also about habits and general helpful tips. You may have heard of her book, The Happiness Project, or her podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin. I had heard of her book, but nothing else, and I spent a lot of time on her site (you could spend hours!) reading about her and everything she's published.
What I really found interesting at the time was her Happier at Home 21 Day Relationship Challenge. It's free, and when you sign up, you receive an e-mail a day for 21 days with a bit of actionable advice geared toward relationship success. I don't sign up for it because I needed help in my relationship (not that there's anything wrong with that- kudos to you for putting in the effort), but so that I could improve what I put into my relationship. I think anyone could benefit from these e-mails, even if you don't have a significant other- everyone has a relationship with someone, whether it's a coworker, family member, or friend. Not all the e-mails will apply if you're single, but it's still sage advice.
I absolutely loved getting an e-mail in my inbox everyday, and I really looked forward to it. Although I wanted to read it all at once, it's good to focus on one thing per day, especially if you take it heart and implement those things in your relationship. Most of the content were things I already knew, but regardless, it's still a great reminder. There were some things that I didn't know and that I found very interesting. It's always good to get someone else's perspective, too.
I will leave you with my 2 favorite days:
1. Give gold stars.
"As a gold-star junkie myself, I was intrigued by researchers’ arguments that men need more gold stars from their partners than women do, because women get much more positive support outside marriage."
2. Make the positive argument.
"When a person takes a position, he or she looks for evidence to support it and then stops, satisfied. This mental process gives the illusion that a position is objective and well justified. However—and this is the useful point—a person can often make the very opposite argument, just as easily."
I encourage you to sign up for it and let me know how you liked it- what was your favorite day, and why?
Blog posts from 2014-2015 were transferred from my original blog on blogger, Oshiro Design, to my updated website, oshirodesigns.com