I was listening to the radio while driving to work the other day, and the station had a segment about flaws, and how it's empowering to just admit to your flaws and get over them! One of the hosts was expressing that she just has a flabby butt, and that's the way it is. As scary as it is to allow others to notice your flaws- and even scarier to say them outright- it's freeing and allows for acceptance.
I knew right away that I wanted to do a post about it... hopefully it inspires others! I'm including a link up and I would LOVE if you would link up and spread the word! I'd be grateful to connect with other people on such a sensitive topic- I'm sure I'm not the only one with the flaws listed below- maybe we can chat about our challenges/successes!
Here are some of my flaws:
-I'm very sensitive, so I take what others say pretty personally. (especially if it's someone I care about) This can often get me in trouble because most of the time, the other person didn't mean how I took it to mean. My boyfriend gets really agitated when I take something he said the wrong way and I "throw it back in his face" (but I can see why he feels that way).
-I'm very skinny. At first this might seem like a good thing, but it's SO disparaging to hear people say that I need to eat more, etc. Excuse me, just because I'm underweight doesn't mean I'm anorexic- I DO eat a healthy amount (of both healthy food and junk food). (more on this subject in a later post). Because of these comments and my general self-image, I'd like to gain some weight or at least just be happy with where I'm at. I don't really have curves to speak of either, which I often get down about.
-I get jealous easily. That isn't to say I necessarily act on it, but if I'm with my boyfriend and he's looking at another girl (not even staring, really), I can get self-conscious because I think damaging thoughts that feed off my insecurities ("I'm not as pretty as her," etc.)
-I'm pretty damn insecure... not to the point that I think that I have 100 flaws or that I'm ugly... but I just know that I'm not the prettiest girl in the room. Sometimes I'd like to feel that way, though. This goes hand in hand with my jealousy and sometimes (not on purpose!) I'll take it out on Chris, which he doesn't deserve.
I'm trying hard to work on my flaws, especially the ones that impact my relationship in a negative way. Sometimes flaws aren't something that really need to change, unless it negatively impacts you. If you're a curvy girl- ROCK IT! That's not something that you necessarily need to change, unless you're overweight and it's affecting your health, etc. Or if you're skinny and you eat 5 bags of chips everyday- that's also not good for your health even though your weight doesn't necessarily need to change.
Sometimes flaws just need to be accepted- we're human- we're meant to have flaws and that's what makes us beautiful and unique. We have an amazing capacity to love others- even with all their flaws! Let's take a vow to change the flaws that negatively impact our lives and make peace with the rest of them!
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