I was reading a blog post a while ago which sparked an idea to write about fighting with your significant other. I didn't want to do the 'dos and donts' because everyone fights differently. The only thing that would be a complete no-no is getting physical. Other than that, do what seems to work best with the least amount of hurt feelings! This post is a little about how Chris and I fight and what I'd like to change about it.
There seems to be a lot of miscommunication when my boyfriend and I fight. Mostly it's because we don't truly understand where either of us is coming from (even though we might think we do, or we understand at the surface level, but there's actually so much more underneath). Also, I am a VERY emotional fighter and he's VERY logical.
After the last argument we had, I thought of something to help deter fighting (because he likes to be right and if he thinks he is, he will argue tooth and nail... but when I'm emotional, I'm super stubborn). I was thinking that when either of us has an issue with something, we can try to be clear and say something along the lines of, "I'm hurt because you knew what time I was coming over and I thought we had plans. Instead, since you chose to start a game with your roommate which led to me waiting for over an hour before it finished, and it made me feel like you didn't care about our plans." That way, it's mostly clear and you won't be arguing about something that isn't even the underlying issue (aka my fights with Chris). He'll think that the issue was that I was mad that he was playing a game with his roommate, period, when the issue was that I thought he had plans that he disregarded (or whatever).
We haven't had a fight in a while, so I haven't been able to try this method out, but it seems great in theory. Hopefully, if something really irks me to the point where I have to bring it up, we can have a quick discussion about it instead of a drawn-out fight.
Also, letting go is helpful for me. For some dumb reason, the littlest things will bother me sometimes (even though the underlying issue isn't as small). And a good chuck of the time, the issue is more about me than him (sometimes its insecurities that I project onto him), which I know is unhealthy. However, I've been getting a lot better with time and talking about things helps me as well. We've been dating for 10 months, so we're still pretty new!
I know you have to pick your battles, and that's very true. Oftentimes if something is bothering me, I try to let it go (I may be a tad reserved or grumpy for a few minutes), but I discover that it's not a big deal, I forget about it, and it also avoids a usually pointless argument.
We're moving in together in the middle of July, so I know there will be an adjustment period. I'll post updates about what it's like living with your boyfriend, and maybe some of my struggles/successes and tips. (:
Let me know how you fight/handle fights in the comments! Do you guys ever go to bed angry? What are some of your tips? Do you have any questions or concerns for me or other readers?
I got the Summer Challenge idea from Roots & Whim, read about it here!
I love this idea because I'm not taking any classes for a few months, so I want to be productive in other ways this summer. I know things are going to be insane around the end of August until December, so that's why I wanted to invest my time wisely and start my blog now. I also have some other goals that I want to work on, so that's where #SummerChallengeRW comes in! By putting it into words and posting it on my blog and making a physical copy to hang around my work space, I can stay accountable.
Hopefully this challenge will inspire you all as it did me! I would love to know who is participating, and if applicable, I would love a link to the blog post or a picture of your goals. I always read and respond to comments, they're the fuel to my fire!
Here is a list of my 5 goals:
1. Learn Japanese: It's such a huge undertaking that I've always avoided it. I'm half-Japanese, but born and raised in the US. That being said, I really want to connect more with my foreign side, and my boyfriend is also interested in learning the language, so hopefully we can help each other out!
2. Grow my blog: Oshiro Design is only a few weeks old and I want it to really blossom over the next few months (and potentially, years!). I can't wait to see what my hard work brings.
3. Read: My favorite pastime! I'm upset that I don't do it more. I always manage to find excuses (some are more legitimate than others) but ultimately, my "to-read" list is way too long and I need to spend less time in front of the TV and more time reading.
4. Eat healthier: I'm eating out entirely too much, a lot of which has to do with my roommate and living situation and Chris, but either way, it's incredibly unhealthy. Fruits and vegetables are my favorite, so hopefully that'll incentivize me more!
5. Make stomach progress: For months I've been having stomach issues (nausea after eating random things and alcohol, etc.) and after seeing a few doctors, I've gotten discouraged (they don't know what's wrong and/or they have completely asinine opinions). It's not good to stay in the dark like this, so I need to be willing to really find out what the issue is.
When crafting anything, I think you just have to do the best you can. Afterwards, it's okay to self-evaluate and offer yourself constructive criticism, because no one is perfect, therefore, anything we create cannot be perfect either. That being said, love what you do, love the process, and love what you've crafted. It's not about being perfect or 'good enough', it's about having fun, not staying idle and always improving.
I know my hand-stitches are a little lopsided and probably should be closer, the heart is too smudgy for my taste, etc. I think I'm especially hard on myself sometimes because I put my content on the internet after I'm finished so I always think about my readers and if they'll like what I created. What if it's too plain? Does it look too handcrafted and not professional enough? Did I take enough pictures? Are my pictures good enough?
The moral of the story, whether you have a blog or not, is to just be real, do the best you can, and grow from your experiences. We all make mistakes and everything is a learning process. Don't be too hard on yourselves, no one knows the answer and no one is perfect, only more experienced and more learned.
This card was modeled after this one, but of course, I added my own twist!
I appreciate all of my readers, especially the ones who take the time to comment, it means a lot and helps to keep me going. (: This card was created for my boyfriend's Aunt, Lorie. She's such a sweetheart and always goes above and beyond what she needs to do! I'm happy and grateful that I have her in my life, as well as boyfriend, of course. (;
Hope you all had a great weekend and are enjoying your Memorial Day- let's take a minute to appreciate everything that the men and women in the armed forces have done for us, and how much they, along with their family and friends have scarified for us all. Especially in this day's remembrance, let's think about those who have made the ultimate sacrifice- we thank you more than words can say.
Thank God it's Friday! I'm especially excited on this last day of the week because I'm headed to some natural springs to go camping for Memorial Day weekend. I'll be gone from Saturday to Monday, exact times are unknown. One of my roommates is having a baby shower on Saturday, so hopefully I can make it before we leave. If not, I helped her get ready and I already have her gifts! Also, Chris's dad is in town today, so we're going to meet up with him for dinner.
Side note: is it just me, or is EVERYONE pregnant right now? I just went to 3 baby showers with more on the way!
Last weekend I was visiting my best friend Marlee while she was back home, where we both grew up. We've been friends for 10 years, I can't believe it- every since Mrs. Brewer's class in the 6th grade... it's insane to think about how much we've changed and grown since then, but I'm so, so glad we've remained best friends while so many other friendships have faded.
My week 2 tag is in the upper-left corner attached to the picture of Shadow, Chris's dog! He's so silly... sometimes he'll lay down with just his head under the bed. The picture next to it is actually a Japanese postcard! The last picture, on the bottom right is from a Tampa Bay Rays game we went to a little while ago. (Sometimes I'll include pictures that are from a few weeks ago since I'm just starting & would like to work in some older photographs!) I'm not a big baseball girl (football is my game), but it was fun to go and learn more about the game in the process.
Two hedgehogs are featured in this week's layout! Marlee has a pet hedgehog, Penelope, featured in the bottom right picture, and she sent me a thank-you card, featured in the upper left corner. I added half of a Seafoam Core Kit card to the thank you. One of the other cards in the kit is the "See, hear, taste, touch & smell" one, which I was excited to fill out this week. I cut a 4x6 photo to fit two pockets, which displayed some of the cards I made the previous week. I shipped them all out on Monday!
Again, all pictures are ordered from PostalPix, the photo pockets on the left are from We R Memory Keepers, and the photo pockets on the right are PL Design A.
Let me know if you have any questions & feel free to post a direct link to your Project Life layouts- I love looking at them! (: Don't forget to follow me on Bloglovin', Twitter and Pinterest if you like what you see on my blog. ♥
Listening: to Elise's podcasts
Watching: Parenthood, 16 & Pregnant, Grey's Anatomy, Game of Thrones
Reading: Gone Girl (just finished Divergent)
Buying: these heels!
Crafting: Project Life
Wearing: dresses & skirts, it's so hot!
Eating: breakfast at a new family-owned restaurant
Planning: my editorial calendar/blog posts
Feeling: blessed and grateful for all the people in my life
Loving: getting snail mail/packages!
Hating: that "men" as described in this post exist
Hoping: for a beautiful, restful & fun summer
Excited: for camping this weekend!
Though my college graduation was only two weeks ago, it feels like a lifetime ago. I decorated my grad cap before I started Oshiro Design, so I didn't document the process too well, but hopefully you can bear with me. (:
I'm not sure how I came up with my design idea, except that I was browsing Pinterest for like 3 days and suddenly things came together. Originally I was dead-set on this Pocahontas quote: "Listen to your heart, you will understand." I also was diggin' a theme based on The Giving Tree, since I've loved that book since I learned to read. (I also continue to love trees in general) But alas, I went with a galaxy theme and a Joan of Arc quote.
I found the galaxy tutorial via Pinterest, and was nervous because I'd never done any galaxy painting before, in addition to the fact that I was using 10 year old acrylic paint. I more-or-less followed the tutorial, but I simply dipped my paintbrush into the colors, and I just used broad strokes and a circular pattern in random areas around the cap to create a less-organized feel.
I probably used 6-8 different colors, and it took a while to master the 'technique' to reflect the vision of the galaxy that I had in mind. I also needed to feel out how much paint was needed to show up on my black cap. For a while, my cap looked pretty ugly, but after an hour or so, I could tell that it was really coming together. (that sounds like quite a while, but one of my good friends was over decorating her cap and we were girl talking/listening to music so time flew by) I then added colors to areas that I thought were too bare so I could get a result that I was pleased with. One of my last steps was to add the glitter paint, which made it REALLY pop! Finally, I used a toothbrush and white paint to fleck the 'stars' onto my cap.
The letters were Hampton Art's Glitz & Glitter stick-ons, which I found at Jo-Ann's, along with the other supplies that I bought for this project. I found some small stick-on rhinestones to write out "2014 Bulls" and I found a boutique bow hair tutorial on Youtube for the bow that I sewed onto the cap. (unfortunately I can't find the exact tutorial I used, but if you do a quick Google search, there are many tutorials out there)
Let me know if you have any questions about my methods or if you'd like more information about anything! Have you guys graduated yet? If so, what did you do with your cap, or how did you spend your graduation day?
I'm so excited to be sharing my Project Life debut with you all! I took these photos a few days ago, and I've made two improvements since:
-The red banner above the calendar was darkened so you can read "week 1" better
-I dropped my first Grad class due to financial aid errors, so that's erased from the calendar
I've been using PostalPix (a great app where you can take the pictures already on your phone and have them ordered from your phone through an app and delivered to your door- no legwork involved!) I first heard about this app from Kam, on her Campfire Chic blog. She was also super generous after I commented on her blog about just having started PL, so she sent me some themed cards, like the pink one with flowers featured below. I'm sending her a hand-made thank you card and will be posting about it, so keep an eye out for that!
The binder is this one, from the Seafoam Edition.Most of the themed cards are also from the PL Seafoam Kit designed by Elise Blaha, another one of my FAVORITE blogs! The mini calendar was purchased from her shop months ago, and is no longer available.
The photo pocket page on the left is from PL Design A and the one on the right is part of a multi-pack from We R Memory Keepers.
I didn't have any normal sized pockets to put extra stuff in, so I created one out of one of the photo pockets from We R Memory Keepers. I cut it down to size based on the graduation cards I received, and sewed down the right side. For extra protection, I added a small binder clip on top to make sure the cards don't tumble out every time I open the binder.
Brian is the name of my boyfriend's Dad, who gave me a very generous Graduation gift! There are a handful of others who also gave me cards and/or money, so I need to send them a thank you card as well. I think there's 6 others on the list, so luckily I will have plenty of content for the coming weeks!
Sometime's its difficult to come up with unique ideas, especially when doing a bunch of cards all at once, so inspiration is occasionally derived from Pinterest. If I strictly recreate anyone's work, I will link them in the blog post (and I would hope others would do the same if they recreated my work as well).
This card is also on the simple side, but sometimes it's better to use space wisely while not letting it get too cluttered! (maybe simple is my style- but you can add to the design to personalize it to your needs!) To create this card, I drew a triangle on cardboard that I felt was adequate, and used it as a template for the other triangles. I wanted to maintain the raised nature of the card, so I drew the 'thank you' and cut it out to glue onto the card since I am still saving for a Cameo Cutter! I stuck with darker colors to give it a manlier vibe, but you can create this card with pinks and purples or pastels for a different audience.
If you guys hand make any cards (regardless if they are similar to mine), I'd love to see them all! Happy Wednesday (:
I FINALLY finished Dexter the other night- I was on the fifth season for the longest time. I'm so sad it's over! How do you guys feel about the ending? I read an interview that the writers participated in (read it here!) and it helped me cope with the finale a little more.
So now that that's over ): , I've been trying to hunt down another great series to binge watch via Netflix (or Hulu Plus). Do you have any suggestions? Here are some series that I have tried over the past few days that haven't worked out for me:
Parenthood: almost 2 episodes in and I just couldn't get into it
The Office: almost finished 1 episode- not my type of show at all
The Fall: Netflix original- House of Cards & Orange is the New Black are fantastic and this fell short for me (I may give it another try though because I think it was just starting to get interesting as I was progressing)
Brothers & Sisters: I haven't completely finished episode 1 yet, but I'm veering away
What are some recommendations for good television shows? I tend to stick to dramas (LOVE Grey's Anatomy & Downton Abbey) and witty series (The Blacklist & Almost Human). I need another blog post to talk about all the shows I love... I could probably write novels.
In other screen-related news, I AM SO EXCITED FOR THE FAULT IN OUR STARS TO COME OUT IN THEATERS. (June 6th for those of you who are not counting down!) I read the book last summer and it was fantastic.
One more big-screen/book-turned-movie note: I started reading Divergent before the movie came out, and I actually saw the movie when I was about 3/4 done with the book. Interestingly, I really enjoyed reading most of the book but not all of it before seeing the movie. Why? Because I was hopping around in my seat and playfully hitting my boyfriend when I knew a good scene was about to come on, but, the ending was a cool surprise for me, so I got the best of both worlds. I haven't read reviews from others who read the book and saw the movie, but I was very pleased with how well the movie followed the book. PLEASE go see it if you haven't, and also read the book! I enjoyed both, but I welcome diverse opinions too- let me know what you thought. (:
We owe so much to our mothers, and anyone else who fills that spot in our hearts. My mom is tough to shop for because she doesn't wear jewelry or make-up and she's very practical and frugal. Even though she likes to garden and cook, it's still difficult to find something she doesn't already have and/or that she would use or like. So because of that, I tend to get more creative and try to make her a gift. (it also helps with my wallet, though not always: sometimes crafting can be costly!)
Previous gifts include a painted tea cup and saucer, buying a large, floor-standing vase & filling it with rocks, then putting in flower branches with little lights on them (not hand-made, but still designed & put together by me!), compiling photos into a collage frame, buying a large canvas photo print from CVS, and last but not least, handmade cards!
I tend to craft my cards with a cleaner design, which means that sometimes they may appear 'simple'. Hopefully you guys can still appreciate them (: Here is a progression of what I made for this Mother's Day:
Another idea that I had was to make the flower wreath a bit bigger and center that in a horizontally opened card (right now it's vertical), and just fit the 'Happy Mother's Day' in the center.
I like to watch reality tv or something similar while I'm crafting so that it doesn't require my full attention and I have something to listen to in the background. Music also works, of course! I was watching Community as I created this last night.
My mom always taught me to write thank you cards when I was younger, so I always try to craft a nice thank you card when someone gives me any kind of gift, big or small. I liked doing it so much that the practice has continued to this day. It may sound trivial, but everyone loves to receive thank-yous, and it shows that you care (especially when it's handmade).
Hopefully this post helps anyone who is still stumped on what to get such an amazing woman! A handmade card is the perfect gift- if she appreciated our drawings back when they were a bunch of lines on a page, you know she'll love what we can do now! Disclaimer: don't fret if your drawings still look like lines, your mom will love it anyway.
And for all the moms out there, thank you for everything you do ♥
*Along with my card, I bought my mom a huge sudoku book. I think she'll particularly enjoy this one because she's exclusively doing the most challenging puzzles! Most of the books are filled with easy, medium & hard levels.
Post a comment and let me know what you think and share what you got for mom this Mother's Day! Do you guys have any special plans?
Blog posts from 2014-2015 were transferred from my original blog on blogger, Oshiro Design, to my updated website, oshirodesigns.com