I was inspired by this beautiful post from the Nectar Collective to share some thoughts of my own. In that post, she speaks about Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly and how we need to put all of ourselves out there and really live life to the fullest. We need to be vulnerable. We can't let fear have any place in our relationships because if we do, we can't fully open up. I know I'm definitely guilty of this to a degree. I have my insecurities, and for some reason, I worry that my boyfriend will find someone else he loves better, and I'm always comparing myself to other women... it needs to end.
I am perfectly wonderful the way I am, and I should know that in my heart. I also think that comes with time- many women are very secure as they get older, even in their mid-twenties. (I just turned 22 a few weeks ago) But, many people, not just women, have a fear that if they give themselves completely, then there will be nothing else if something happens, such as the other person leaving, dying, etc. This really struck me. It is completely true, and something I think I'm guilty of, but not consciously. I believe that once I work on my insecurities and vulnerabilities, I can be a better person and girlfriend.
"There is no intimacy without vulnerability." Brené Brown
You just have to start opening yourself up- slowly, or however you're comfortable, and realize that sometimes, nothing lasts forever and you have to enjoy what you have while you have it. Sometimes you may be lucky enough to marry your partner, but even then, we all have to die at some point, so treasure the time you have together and make that time the best it can be by being vulnerable and giving them all of you.
Blog posts from 2014-2015 were transferred from my original blog on blogger, Oshiro Design, to my updated website, oshirodesigns.com